Won't sleep? Sound familiar, anyone who dipped their toes into the world of parenting would have at some point hit the brick wall known as bed time stand off, so when those wide eyes accompanied by a smile try the first in a long line of pleas, it's easy to give in for a quiet life. Or is it. After all a quiet life is a sleeping child, is it not.
Can I have a drink - oh that old chestnut, and be honest it was your key whine as a child too, however parenting varies, my Mum's in a minute lasted so long I inevitably fell asleep, my nieces were just too terrified to even ask their Mum, of course we can find middle ground, because boring your child or scaring your child is never the long term solution. So what is, can we really find an answer that doesn't have us running up and down the stairs for two hours until peace finally reins and we are just too exhausted to do whatever we planned in the first place.
Well actually the answer doesn't lay with the child, but the parent, it starts with one simple question
What do you want?
Can you answer that honestly, and I mean with more effort and thought than you are frustrated by bed time drama. Because the question is not what do you want to change, it is what do you want?
Back tomorrow with more ..
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